If You Want to Fix Your Money, Fix Your Marriage

Are you constantly trying to figure out why you suck with money? For those that are single, part of the problem is accountability, but for those that aren’t, the problem(s) can go much deeper than that. Sometimes the solution is right in front of you, or in this case, in your marriage.

Money and Marriage are two words that sometimes seem like distant relatives, but the fact is, the connection between the two actually go hand in hand. If you look at some of the number one reasons people give for getting a divorce, money is usually at the top. I say, if you want to fix your money, fix your marriage…and vice-versa!

If you fix your money, your marriage will get better, and if you fix your marriage, how you handle money (as a couple) will surely improve. It’s a positive cycle that involves super communication and a lifetime of commitment! That’s right. That commitment didn’t stop at the alter.

If you suck at communication, there’s no need to worry. The good news is you can improve those skills over time.

If I’ve learned anything about money and marriage it’s that one (either one), can destroy the other. If your marriage lacks the communication, commitment, and quality time it deserves to thrive and grow, it’s nearly impossible to be on the same page financially. Any marriage needs high levels of honesty and trust to survive and when two people are spending in opposite directions, trust goes out the window.

Before you know it, you’re both yelling at each other about each others problems with money. You never even stop to think, that while you’re criticizing your significant other for their lack of [insert poor financial characteristic here], you fail to place the focus on what you can change — YOU!

On the other hand, the communication, commitment and quality time given to your marriage is often the core problem. It existed before your money problems ever came to be. Fix the source of your troubles, not the symptom.

Trust me, (and my wife can vouch for this), when we first started our financial journey, I was a shark and she was a catfish. I completely overwhelmed her with my idea of what we needed to do, and never really gave her the time to speak her mind. My aggressiveness and lack of attention to her needs put her off. It wasn’t even that we wanted different things. It was that we didn’t communicate to know what each other wanted in the first place.

We had no idea what each other desired and wished to accomplish personally, let alone financially.

We were too busy yelling at each other about who spent this, or who spent that. We always focused on what the other did wrong. If my wife “handled” the money, I blamed her for not doing a good job when a check bounced. When I “handled” the money, it was her time to get revenge. This circus would continue each and every bill cycle, and our marriage was seriously strained because of it.

In order for this money thing to work, you have to fix how you communicate and work together. If you aren’t on the same page, your journey will feel more like swimming upstream with a 100 pound weight tied to your leg.

Learn how to:

• Get on the same page financially
• Spend time getting to know your spouse
• C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E
• Become a better listener
• Set goals together
• Celebrate together
• Support each other
• Love each other
• Focus on what YOU can control

Do you want to fix your money? FIX YOUR MARRIAGE!

I have been so far behind lately and because of that wasn’t able to post about this earlier. Let me just tell you that my weight loss journey has consumed me, but it IS for the greater good. Just like with paying off debt, it takes time and hard work to lose weight. Some motivational speakers say that you will become what you focus on most of the time. If more of your day focuses on watching television rather than paying off debt, you will become great at answering television trivia, but you will still be in debt. Focus on your debt! Focus on your marriage.

That means doing whatever it takes to make it happen. Ask yourself the hard questions. Be honest with yourself about the answers.

Is your marriage broken or in need of repair? Does it feel like you just don’t have enough time in the day to fix it? I’ve got excellent news!

My good friend and fellow blogger, Dustin Riechmann from Engaged Marriage, has put together something that I find to be truly exceptional. He recently launched an eBook called The 15 Minute Marriage Makeover. (I’ve worked with Dustin on a number of things but one that I enjoyed the most was the FREE Love Everyday eBook I contributed to.) Dustin is creative and has terrific ideas on how to help you improve your marriage.

I have almost finished his brand new eBook, and can’t wait to sit down with my wife, to start going through this guide day by day. Yes, I’m even a little behind when it comes to the quality time part in my own marriage. That’s the beauty of this eBook. It tackles the issues busy couples face and works to challenge you daily to give your spouse 15 minutes. Just 15 minutes!

In 15 quality minutes a day, you can repair and improve your marriage.

For most of us, we could set aside 15 minutes simply by not signing on to facebook. Instead, devote 15 minutes of your day to work on your marriage. Dustin walks you through it perfectly! Buy your copy of The 15 Minute Marriage Makeover today, and get started on the part of your life that has the biggest impact on how your family manages money.

If you buy it, do it, and are not satisfied, there is a 100% money back guarantee. Make a risk-free investment in your marriage today!

If you are looking for answers when it comes to your wallet, the best place to start is probably your marriage.