What Are The 12 Steps To Becoming Debt Free?
What started out as just a name for my Monday edition of sharing links with you from around the PF blogosphere, has turned into a project. I started to think about my focus on the debt free message and then it hit me – I am addicted to becoming and staying debt free! Are you addicted to becoming and staying debt free? If so, these are the principles that you could follow to achieve such a thing.

You have probably heard about the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, and how they really help these folks cope from day to day. I just created 12 principles very loosely based on those of AA, with a debt free spin. I really just got the idea of where and how to list them, and then I just started thinking of all the things one might need to do and realize, to actually become and stay debt free.
Are you addicted to becoming DEBT FREE too? Consider this the place to come to announce it to the world! When you are ready to join in, type the following, in the comments section below:
Hi my name is (your name), and I am addicted to becoming/remaining DEBT FREE!!
For the people who immediately want to analyze the differences between AA and this. This was never intended to be just like AA. The name being used is to declare my addiction, not to be related with that of AA. In this case I WANT to be addicted to becoming debt free so the principles shouldn’t reflect how to not be addicted, like they are in AA, but what they might be for someone who is addicted. That’s it. Debt Free Addicts Anonymous is a group of people who are addicted to becoming debt free.

Once a month I may get something from a company that wants to partner with Enemy of Debt in some way. The one I received today was a little different but not really. She claimed to read a blog of mine, but maybe she needed to read more of them before contacting me. Her company was nothing more than a debt CONsolidation and negotiation company. My response was respectful, but to the point.
The OFFER:
Hi! I was checking out an article called “I Hate Debt, What About You” on your site www.enemyofdebt.com, and was thinking that I have a resource you may find valuable. My name is Colleen *****, and I represent ****.com, which is a website dedicated to helping people relieve themselves of the financial burdens that come with debt. I think this could be a great tool for your people wanting to spend less money in their daily lives! This site provides people heavily in debt a way out, without ruining their credit for years. This way, if they would like to make some great financial decisions, like using money more wisely after being laid off, they will be able to do so. By providing a link from your site to ours with words like how to decrease credit card debt, you may find that your readers find great advice for reducing their debts, as well as being wiser with their money in the future. Please E-mail me back and let me know what you think of the idea. Thanks for your time!
Colleen
My Response:
Hi Colleen,
First I would like to thank you for contacting me. I have to respectfully decline working with you for a number of reasons. For starters I do not believe in teaching anyone to pay a company to solve their financial problems. (i.e. debt consolidation, debt management, debt negotiating companies.) It has been proven that families already have that ability to do the same thing themselves without paying fees in the process. Not to mention it does nothing for the families ability to remain out of financial trouble because the behavior is not addressed. Statistics tell us that most people that use these companies go right back to where they were. It’s the same when someone pays off a credit card. All they see is a zero balance and an opportunity to go buy something else they can’t really afford.
I am also not a believer in the credit system, or the FICO score. That score is derived from the constant accumulation of debt, and as you can see I am the ENEMY of DEBT, not the Ally of Debt. The reason people are finding themselves in their current situation is because they believed the MYTH that told them to go get debt in order to “build” their credit score. Instead of building their credit, I believe they should be building their wealth. Imagine a land where people use wealth to buy things rather than debt. Ahhh…utopia!
Your company may have good intentions, but I just cannot work with anyone who has conflicting beliefs. Integrity is most important to me and I will not jeopardize that for anything, especially a few bucks. I am very strict with this policy but I thank you again for your offer.
Additional Thoughts On Debt CONsolidation
Stay away from these companies! Learn how to get out of debt yourself, and without paying expensive fees to do so. You have the ability to negotiate your own debt settlement. The money paid in fees could be used to pay off debt! Using these companies is just like sweeping dirt under the rug. The dirt (your financial habits) is still there, it’s just that no one can see it-including yourself. ATTACK the problem, not the symptom by addressing what caused the problem in the first place. Get rid of the dirt, don’t hide it!
Lesson For The Day
Take control of YOUR life and hold yourself personally accountable for your mistakes.

Returning Thoughts
I am in my car a significant amount of time. I have tons of time to think about so many things. One of the questions I find myself asking is “What in the world do people say when they see my car?”. My first response is usually laughter because I imagine what people might say who would never be caught dead in such a car. To make it even more amusing I have a DaveRamsey.com sticker on my bumper that says, “Act Your Wage”, beside another “Anti-Debt” sticker.
To me this makes TOTAL sense, but the average person might say something like, “Hey look, that guy is acting his wage and from the looks of it he doesn’t make much!”. Hahahahahaha! It’s real funny until you consider how much we are actually saving each month. We’ll get to that in a minute, first let me tell you what I currently drive. I proudly drive a 1985 Honda CRX. Honestly, for a 24 year old car it’s not all that bad, but it is missing some body work here and there.
Do I Care What People Think?
I used to care, but not anymore. Society encourages us to try and keep up with the Joneses, so as did many, I fell into the trap too. Coupled with our desire to “need” more than we could pay for, it was real easy to justify such a purchase without even considering what we were giving up in the process. Would I enjoy driving a newer, easier on the eyes, smoother riding car with power steering? Absolutely!! The question then becomes, “Life is too short and I work too hard, don’t I deserve to have a “brand new” vehicle?”. The short answer is that you only deserve what you can honestly afford, and you still have to consider your priorities. If your car payment is made but your struggling to feed the family you can not afford the car.
For me it has become very simple. If you have to go into debt in order to get something, then you can’t afford whatever it is, hence the fact that you would have to borrow to get it. Many would disagree with that until they turned blue, but let’s simplify it even more. Suppose for a second that credit cards did not exist. If you walk into a store to buy something only to realize that you spent the rest of your money on the bills, the truth of the matter is that you can not afford anything because you don’t have any money. Some would still argue that there are more complex issues to consider, it’s not that easy.
There is nothing complex about distinguishing a need from a want and making a mature decision. I have decided to care more about planning our future than what someone who is broke might think of me because I am driving a $500 beater car. (it looks like a hippo tried to take a bite out of the side.) Although I would much rather drive something newer, the sacrifice that I am making now will be more beneficial than the feeling I would get if I had a white BMW with leather seats. A feeling does not pay my bills, take care of my family, or put food on my table, but saving money and making smarter financial decisions do. I will work on the feeling later when I have plenty of wiggle room to do so comfortably.
Burden Or Blessing?
If you have a car payment and are obligated to make that payment NO MATTER WHAT, even though it may not seem like a burden now, it could easily transform into one in the future. How many people are upside down on their car loans right now because they could not predict a rapidly declining economy? Certainly, this is a burden. The truth is that when you put yourself in this position, you are limiting your options so severely that the only real options are bad ones. Burden! It is better to make a decision based on strength rather than weakness.
Consider the alternative. You have a nice $2,000-$4,000 paid for car that has already lost most of it’s value. (Someone else took the hit on the depreciation.) Now add the current economic decline and ask yourself if you are experiencing a burden or a blessing. You don’t owe anyone any money. Blessing! The economic crisis is easier to manage when you don’t have that extra chunk of money going towards car payments, higher insurance premiums, and higher property taxes. Blessing! In extreme hardship, you have the option to sell the car if you have to, and even if you do take a small loss from what you paid, you will have that cash in hand to get you that much further. Blessing!
Our Car Snapshot
Before:
- Paid for Volvo
- Debt-Infested Vibe (Monthly payment of approx. $290, property taxes of approx. $250/yr
- Insurance for both vehicles was $146 per month
After:
- Paid for Volvo
- Paid for Honda (saving $290 per month plus tons of interest, with property taxes well under $50 per year. We no longer owe someone else $8500)
- Insurance for both vehicles is approx. $53 per month
I’ll leave you with this final thought. If you answer this question honestly you will get the most logical answer every time. Is owing someone money better than NOT owing someone money? There is only one right answer. Even if you agree with using debt you must acknowledge that not owing someone money is ultimately better.
My recent upgrade to a newer vehicle without going into debt.