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That Is The Question!

I have not announced this here on EOD yet, but thought that today would be the best time to do so.  Alana and I are having another baby, due to arrive on October 26th to be exact.  I am very excited about this and today we find out whether we are having a boy or a girl.  I LOVE BEING A DAD, it is the best gift EVER!   What Do I Hope We Are Having?  Honestly it really doesn’t matter to me.  Either way I will be excited just the same.  I do hope that my wife is able to have the little girl she has always wanted, but she has even said either way, she will be pleased.  So if we had to say one way or the other, we would both say we want a girl next.  So at 10a.m. this morning we shall find out!!

I Have To Slow My Blog Roll

Well, some of you may have noticed that last week, I didn’t post as much.  In fact I only really posted one, had a video post, and offered you a guest post.  I kind of figured it was going to happen, but I wanted to ride the wave as long as I could.  I did, and it was fun!  Real fun!  In the process I got behind on some other things in my life and now it is time to step back up to the plate to take care of them.

Things I need to do:

  • finish remodeling the upstairs – my in-laws have been kind enough to help us remodel our house, as their gift to us…and I need to get on it, so it can be done!
  • work on organizing my time – I have to learn how to manage my time in a way that will allow me to maximize my efforts.  I want to accomplish A LOT each day, so this is a MUST!
  • hitting the gym – I really need to focus on this so that I can be around a long time to watch my beautiful children grow.  This is probably one of my hardest to stick to goals, but it must become a lifestyle change and a priority.  Now is as good a time as any!
  • find a another full-time job – As you know, I work for tips.  Tips have not been great lately, so instead of wait around for the economy to get better, I have decided to move on.  I am looking for full-time employment and I plan to keep my delivery job part-time to bring in extra money.  I am also considering doing some pressure washing on the side over the summer.
  • prepare for my speaking engagement – In September I have been asked to speak at Sweet Briar College, for one hour, and this requires some preparation.  (I will be talking about budgeting, savings, buying a home, and managing/avoiding student loans.) I have a few things I have to submit before July 7th, and really need to start working on my message and delivery as well.  This is my chance to really dig my heels in and spread my message to even more people.
  • focus on my public speaking class – It goes without saying that this class will help me with the above goal.  The more I put into it the more I will get out of it.  I actually have to deliver an Impromptu speech to my class this evening.  We were given some freedom to choose our topic, and I have chosen to discuss why I hate debt so much.  SURPRISED? Another thing about this class is that it will make me a better writer as well.  I have already learned so much about writing, and truthfully that is the reason I decided not to publish the first installment of my new series.  I want to make it better so it helps you the most.
  • stabilizing my sleep habits – this area of my life probably causes me more problems than any other area.  I would say that if I could get this one area stabilized, it would help me get better in all of the others.  I DO NOT sleep!  I have done a sleep study and got nothing from it.  Sometimes I will just lie in bed, tortured by my burning eyes and intense desire to sleep, but can’t fall asleep to save my life!  I need to put myself on a strict sleep regiment, requiring me to wake up and go to sleep at the same times every single day.  I also plan to visit my doctor.
  • KILL OUR REMAINING DEBT – This is something that in order for me to knock it out, I need to become intensely focused on KILLING it!  It needs to be gone!  It has hung around for too long!  It is what is keeping me from starting my financial coaching business and experiencing financial peace for my family.  Working more, is the short term solution, and is necessary at this point in time.  With sacrifice comes rewards!

I love writing for this blog!  I could spend everyday doing it, but the truth is I do not get paid for writing this blog.  One day I hope to make enough money to justify spending so much time on EOD.  I want to make this site the go-to-place for people trying to get out of debt, not just a place for people to come and read a bunch of filler articles so that I can say I write full time.  I want to give you quality at it’s best, and it is something I am working on.

I am collaborating with one of my readers to eventually publish the EOD Deluxe Budget Version 3.0 with lots of new features to make your life easier.  I am also trying to meet up with a friend of mine to help me with the look I desire for EOD.  I really need to pump out that series that I started and I want it to be off the hook!  I also have a few guest posts that I really need to write as well. I have a debt free interview coming soon as well from a twitter friend of mine.  Stay on the look out, things will be happening, just at a slower rate with an interest on quality instead of quantity.

I hope that switching back to writing part-time does not mean that I will lose any of you.  I truly enjoy that you have decided that what I have done here is valuable to you, and my only goal is to make it better and more valuable.  After all I do not write for myself, I write for YOU!  I also do not want this to sound as though I want the ideas or questions to stop coming.  Those are often where I get my best articles from, so thanks, and keep them coming!!  I am going to try and publish 2 to 3 articles a week, and if I have time for more, or am feeling so inspired, you will get more.

What About This Week?

I will probably be a little light this week as well, so that I can play catch up.  I do have a guest post I plan to post as well as a follow up by me concerning that guest post.

Now it is time for me to just do it.  I talk all the time on this blog about taking control of your own problems, by resolving to fix them yourself.  Instead of complaining that I just don’t have enough time in the day, or that I am not making enough money, or that my debt just won’t go away, or complaining about my weight, I am taking control.  I CAN MAKE THESE GOALS HAPPEN, and I will!

What do you think?  Is my decision a deal breaker for you, the subscriber?  What do you think of my goals, and can you give me any advice that will be valuable to me in achieving those goals?  I want to know!

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Table of contents for Motivation 101

  1. Motivation 101 – YOU CAN DO IT TOO!
  2. Motivation 101 – Saving To Buy, Instead Of Buying To Slave!
  3. Motivation 101 – What You Believe, Is What You Achieve!

Can You Buy A House, Have A Car, Or Go To College Without Debt?

With a plan you can!  It seems like every time I write an article like this I lose a few subscribers.  That’s fine, I am fully aware that I will not please everyone.  This would be too easy if I could, and frankly I like the challenge. For some reason people seem to get angry about someone (me) telling them that it is ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE to live life without accepting the chains and bondage that come with debt.  I could speculate all day long about why they get mad, but I’ll just keep it simple.  The truth hurts! It hurts in this case most likely because accepting my argument against debt means that change has to happen.  People don’t like change, or people that point out the things that need to be changed, so I guess this makes me the bad guy!

People have accepted for so long that they will always have a car payment, that they can’t have a house without a mortgage, and can’t go to school without a bunch of student loans.  This is so far from the truth, but since it has been implanted in our head as truth from a very early age, people refuse to accept any alternatives, especially if it means the word sacrifice comes into play.  As I’ve stated before, I was taught growing up that debt and building your credit score is the ONLY way to have certain things.  My dad sticks to this way of thinking and has said that I will never get people to give up their credit cards or car payments.  Never?  Leading only two 13 week Financial Peace University workshops, and writing for this blog says otherwise.

I get emails from co-workers, members of those FPU classes, as well as readers that glow with excitement over their newly paid off credit card, or that feeling of freedom they feel after paying their car off for good.  There is another way and if you continue to read EOD, you could be convinced of it too.  It’s called having a plan to get what you want, instead of getting what you want without having a plan!  It’s called saving to buy, instead of buying to slave! It’s called taking control of your finances by making better decisions!!  It’s also called personal responsibility.  We seem to hold the President responsible for his decisions, but why not ourselves?

Proof That This Dangerous Mindset Is Alive And Well

I was reading an excellent article from a fellow PF blogger today called, Top 10 Reasons That Living With Debt – BITES!.  Jeff over at My Super-Charged Life gave 10 reasons that to him, explain why living with debt should not be an option.  I happen to agree with him, but I am very aware that our way of thinking is not accepted as rational or even possible, in a culture of excessive consumerism and the “I need it now” way of thinking.  Dawn responded with this, and for the record I am not picking on her, I just feel that her comment is the wrong but normal way of looking at things.

“I agree with you, but there are certain things that most people could not pay cash for, namely, when buying a house, and also for college tuition.”

Could not?  Just because it isn’t very common doesn’t mean it isn’t possible to buy a home or pay for college without debt. The truth is that IF people had a better and more responsible financial plan then they very well could do those things with 100% cash down. (100% cash down refers to not going into debt to get something, NOT that you physically only spend cash.)  I admit that it’s not very popular, but what if it was?   If you look at the savings habits of MOST people you will see the reason it is not currently possible.  Isn’t it logical to believe if people saved more, and planned more, they could accomplish some of these “impossible” goals?

I am going to school debt free and my kids are going to be going to school debt free.  There are in fact people who either pay off their mortgage early, or pay for a house without a mortgage at all.  Don’t those two examples mean that it is possible?  If I can go to school debt free, and some have paid off their mortgage early, can’t you also save money to buy that house too?  It might mean that you will have to wait to get that dream house or that school takes a little longer to complete, but what is the rush?  Why does everything have to be done without patience and proper planning to get it?

I just wanted to point out that most people feel the same as Dawn but most people are broke and living paycheck to paycheck, and that is not me being mean, it’s statistically proven.  Maybe it is time for people to plan their future instead of running full steam ahead without knowing where the track leads.  Maybe it’s time for people to stop doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.  There’s a thought!

“I believe that if you are disciplined about paying your credit cards off every month, short-term financing like that made possible by credit cards can be a convenience when you’d rather not carry large sums of cash in your pocket. Assuming your card charges no annual fee and you pay in full each month, you’re paying $0 for a short-term loan.”

I hear this ALL THE TIME, and quite honestly it is completely full of holes.  Not the short term use of credit, but the reason why it’s more convenient.  I believe that not carrying a balance is the most responsible way to use a credit card, but is it the only way?  Nope!  For a business that purchases goods and has 30 days to pay, I think it is useful, but for personal use I strongly disagree?  Why?  An account payable makes it so that you are not having to pay the delivery guy EVERY TIME he delivers goods to your business, but instead you just cut one check at the end of the month.  For a business it makes sense, but for personal use it does not.  I think that there is a better way that gives you peace of mind with less risk. Wait, hear me out!

Dawn says that it is convenient so that you don’t have to carry around large sums of cash.  Can’t a check card be used to do this very same thing? I am sure of it, and the truth is that you don’t carry with you the risk of having a CC balance should a major emergency happen to you, before paying the balance.  Like rewards? Get a check card that gives you rewards for using it.  Like having a buffer to cover expenses in between paychecks? Take a minute to determine how much you need every month to do this and save it, then replenish the fund instead of the credit card when you get paid.  Do you believe that you are more protected against fraud if you use a credit card? That is a lie too if you swipe your debit/check card as a credit purchase instead of a debit using your pin number.  Don’t believe me? Go to the Visa website and see for yourself!

“Personally, I steer clear of the mega-banks who threw us into a global monetary crisis and then accepted taxpayer-funded bailout monies. I prefer doing business with small community banks and a credit union.”

I believe this to be complete denial and a true sign of someone who doesn’t believe in personal responsibility.  Banks are not the reason for our global crisis we find ourselves in at the moment. It is first the people who signed their name on any dotted line’s fault, to accept debt to cover the spending that exceeded their income. If you want to blame someone for allowing that to happen you can blame Washington for forcing some of these same banks to give loans to a larger amount of people in the name of equality. I am not a fan of big banks either, more for customer service issues, but personal responsibility is something that should be considered before pointing the finger.

If people shared Jeff’s attitude about debt, as do I, then there would be no banks to blame in the first place. It’s just something to think about and the very reason I feel so passionately about spreading this very message to all who are willing to hear it. Not accepting debt as the answer gives you MORE options in life instead of chaining you down. I hope you can at least consider what I have said as a possible alternative to using debt to get stuff. The solution is in us and our plan, not in blaming others for our own mistakes.

Now I know that my opinion on this is going to ruffle some feathers because people have been led to believe that the banks are to blame, I just happen to disagree with that line of thinking.  Have there been banks that have deliberately taken advantage of consumers?  Absolutely, and without shame! Does that mean that you, the borrower is faultless?  Not a chance, because you signed the line and likely didn’t read the fine print that told you what was going to happen if you did this or that.  Yeah but…nothing, you could of said no to the slavery that is DEBT!  When you make a choice and it is wrong, that doesn’t give you the right to blame someone else.

My Answer Is:  MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE!

You can live without debt!  You can buy a house!  You can buy a car!  You can rent a car!  You can go on vacation!  You can do absolutely EVERYTHING that you can do with debt, WITHOUT IT!  The only thing you won’t have is a FICO score that says you LOVE to borrow money!  OOOOH SCARY!  No FICO score?  That’s not possible right?  Oh yes it is!  The only good argument I have ever heard about why someone would NEED a good FICO score is because of some jobs requiring it for employment.  Just because it is required doesn’t make it right.  First of all it is just plain wrong!  To expect someone to go into debt by borrowing money in order to do something that they can very easily do just the same as if they had no debt, is STUPID!!!!!

How Can You Get What You Want Without Debt?

It’s called having a plan!  Brian Tracy, a motivational speaker and a master at goal setting, teaches the 5 P’sProper Planning Prevents Poor Performance!  Create a plan that will allow you to have the things you want, and what you want, you will have.  No Debt is needed!!  Create a plan for savings!  Create a plan for spending!  Most of all, create a plan for your future, as well as for your children’s future.  It’s amazing how much you can do when you realize that debt is holding you back!  Get rid of that debt and go do it, and remember these 8 words:  SAVE TO BUY, INSTEAD OF BUYING TO SLAVE!

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Returning Thoughts

I am in my car a significant amount of time.  I have tons of time to think about so many things.  One of the questions I find myself asking is “What in the world do people say when they see my car?”.  My first response is usually laughter because I imagine what people might say who would never be caught dead in such a car.  To make it even more amusing I have a DaveRamsey.com sticker on my bumper that says, “Act Your Wage”, beside another “Anti-Debt” sticker.

To me this makes TOTAL sense, but the average person might say something like, “Hey look, that guy is acting his wage and from the looks of it he doesn’t make much!”.  Hahahahahaha!  It’s real funny until you consider how much we are actually saving each month.  We’ll get to that in a minute, first let me tell you what I currently drive.  I proudly drive a 1985 Honda CRX.  Honestly, for a 24 year old car it’s not all that bad, but it is missing some body work here and there.

Do I Care What People Think?

I used to care, but not anymore.  Society encourages us to try and keep up with the Joneses, so as did many, I fell into the trap too.  Coupled with our desire to “need” more than we could pay for, it was real easy to justify such a purchase without even considering what we were giving up in the process.  Would I enjoy driving a newer, easier on the eyes, smoother riding car with power steering?  Absolutely!!  The question then becomes, “Life is too short and I work too hard, don’t I deserve to have a “brand new” vehicle?”.  The short answer is that you only deserve what you can honestly afford, and you still have to consider your priorities.  If your car payment is made but your struggling to feed the family you can not afford the car.

For me it has become very simple.  If you have to go into debt in order to get something, then you can’t afford whatever it is, hence the fact that you would have to borrow to get it.  Many would disagree with that until they turned blue, but let’s simplify it even more.  Suppose for a second that credit cards did not exist.  If you walk into a store to buy something only to realize that you spent the rest of your money on the bills, the truth of the matter is that you can not afford anything because you don’t have any money.  Some would still argue that there are more complex issues to consider, it’s not that easy.

There is nothing complex about distinguishing a need from a want and making a mature decision.   I have decided to care more about planning our future than what someone who is broke might think of me because I am driving a $500 beater car. (it looks like a hippo tried to take a bite out of the side.)  Although I would much rather drive something newer, the sacrifice that I am making now will be more beneficial than the feeling I would get if I had a white BMW with leather seats.  A feeling does not pay my bills, take care of my family, or put food on my table, but saving money and making smarter financial decisions do.  I will work on the feeling later when I have plenty of wiggle room to do so comfortably.

Burden Or Blessing?

If you have a car payment and are obligated to make that payment NO MATTER WHAT, even though it may not seem like a burden now, it could easily transform into one in the future.  How many people are upside down on their car loans right now because they could not predict a rapidly declining economy?  Certainly, this is a burden.  The truth is that when you put yourself in this position, you are limiting your options so severely that the only real options are bad ones.  Burden!  It is better to make a decision based on strength rather than weakness.

Consider the alternative.  You have a nice $2,000-$4,000 paid for car that has already lost most of it’s value.  (Someone else took the hit on the depreciation.) Now add the current economic decline and ask yourself if you are experiencing a burden or a blessing.  You don’t owe anyone any money.  Blessing! The economic crisis is easier to manage when you don’t have that extra chunk of money going towards car payments, higher insurance premiums, and higher property taxes.  Blessing!  In extreme hardship, you have the option to sell the car if you have to, and even if you do take a small loss from what you paid, you will have that cash in hand to get you that much further.  Blessing!

Our Car Snapshot

Before:

  • Paid for Volvo
  • Debt-Infested Vibe (Monthly payment of approx. $290, property taxes of approx. $250/yr
  • Insurance for both vehicles was $146 per month

After:

  • Paid for Volvo
  • Paid for Honda (saving $290 per month plus tons of interest, with property taxes well under $50 per year.  We no longer owe someone else $8500)
  • Insurance for both vehicles is approx. $53 per month

I’ll leave you with this final thought.  If you answer this question honestly you will get the most logical answer every time.  Is owing someone money better than NOT owing someone money? There is only one right answer. Even if you agree with using debt you must acknowledge that not owing someone money is ultimately better.

My recent upgrade to a newer vehicle without going into debt.

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Murphy’s Fall

by Brad Chaffee on October 9, 2008

in Money Management

Murphy’s Fall?

I wanted to take this opportunity to introduce you to something that you have or will possibly go through.  I have coined the term “Murphy’s Fall”Murphy’s Fall isn’t the fall of Murphy.  Instead it is something you yourself go through because of Murphy.  That’s right.  It’s what can happen when Murphy has moved in and just doesn’t want to leave.  It could be equivalent to what marathoners call “The Wall”, which is when a marathoner reaches the 20 mile mark and starts to rationalize giving up.  It’s when you start to tell yourself that you have already made more progress than most people, so quitting isn’t so bad.  You may be tired, frustrated, depleted, and your hope is at an all time low.  Frankly, you have fallen away from the hope and determination that you had when you first started your Total Money Makeover.

The HIGH!

I decided that it was time for me to write about this because for the past three and a half months I have experienced this symptom of not making any progress.  When we first started our Total Money Makeover (TMMO), we were excited, and we made great strides because of it.  We sold our car (saving us almost $500 between the car payment, high insurance costs, and property taxes), and paid off almost $5,000 in credit card debt, and old medical bills.  This left us with $5,000 until we would be debt free except for our house—or so we thought.  We also managed to save $2,000 for our Emergency Fund. (Savings for the first time EVER!) EXCITING STUFF!!  I was PUMPED! Then Murphy decided that we were just too happy, and that it was time he paid us a visit.  This would be Murphy’s first visit since we began our TMMO.

The LOW!

First we received a letter in the mail, letting us know that we owed an additional $4,000 from a student loan on top of the $5,000 in other student loans.  A $4,000 jump all because we forgot about that particular loan.  Next we had car trouble, some more car trouble, and yet a third round of car trouble.  Throw in having to adjust to my wife having a new schedule as a Registered Nurse, and then me being forced to take time off at my job to be with Isaac until we figured something out.  My wife went to nights, I went to days, and everything was taken care of.  Or so we thought.  After about 6 weeks, Alana was told with absolutely NO notice at all, that she would be moving to days.  Now we needed to make some different arrangements.  Child care was unavoidable.  Still I was forced to take off some more time from work until we were able to find daycare quick and in a hurry.  Wait, I’m not done! Next I get a hernia from freaking coughing, and am out of work for 3 weeks.  “We have done so much more than most people!” This started to creep into my thoughts periodically until it was eventually considered rational thought.

The FALL!

In short, with all that going on, I have been really frustrated.  We have made little progress since the video that I made.  I am constantly thinking about how we are not paying any of our debt snowball down.  We still owe $9,000 and we were supposed to be out of debt except for the house by September or October at the latest.  I am coordinating a Financial Peace University class, and I am struggling with trying to remain positive and excited for the class members sake.  It has been hard.  The truth is, it’s not that I have lost faith in our Total Money Makeover.  NOT AT ALL!  I have lost faith in myself!  I have let Murphy take me down, and my hope came tumbling down with it.  Things seemed to reach an all time low.  But has it really?

The ANSWER!

How can I truly be at an all time low?  I can’t or maybe it’s better to say that I shouldn’t be.  Here’s why. In less than a year we have cut up and paid off ALL of our credit cards, eliminated a car debt (saving us $8,500), managed to save $2,000 in our Emergency Fund, and with all of that doom and gloom above we have still been able to make it without borrowing any money at all.  The absolute truth is that we have not even had a hard time making it through all this.  Our bills have been paid extremely early compared to how we were living last year at this time.  In fact, our mortgage is usually paid before the first of the month.  So I must ask myself this:  Why am I crying and most importantly why have I felt defeated?

I have felt this way because I have been thinking about the wrong stuff.  Instead of thinking about the good, I have been analyzing the bad.  Successful people are solution oriented, and they rarely think about the past.  That is why it is called the past because it is gone, and you can’t do anything about it.  I should have been looking at how easily we were able to find solutions that did not include borrowing money or not paying our bills. Had I been looking at it differently, I would have been getting hope and encouragement from our new found financial responsibility.  I realized something all over again.  WE ARE NOT LIVING PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK ANY MORE! That is something to be celebrating, not something to be depressed about!  We have a plan, and it IS working.

My Message To YOU!

Please don’t let Murphy get the best of you!  You are still winning if you still have a plan.  As long as you do not have to go backwards you will always be in better shape than you were before!  Go FORWARD!  Think POSITIVE! As long as you remind yourself of how far you have come, and avoid thinking about how things have not gone exactly like planned, you will be okay.  One thing that I am sure of is that plans often take unexpected turns along the way.  The key is to adjust and continue to follow the road in the direction of your goals.  Don’t let “Murphy’s Fall” get the best of you!  You are going to win, that I am sure of!

GOOD LUCK!

Have you experienced Murphy’s Fall?  Share your story in the comments section.

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Without those BRAVE men and women that sacrificed and paid the ultimate price, we would not be free to have what we have. Becoming debt free wouldn’t matter much without the freedom we have been given. We should all reflect on what kind of person it takes to fill those shoes, as most [...]

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