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Table of contents for Motivation 101

  1. Motivation 101 – YOU CAN DO IT TOO!
  2. Motivation 101 – Saving To Buy, Instead Of Buying To Slave!
  3. Motivation 101 – What You Believe, Is What You Achieve!

Can You Buy A House, Have A Car, Or Go To College Without Debt?

With a plan you can!  It seems like every time I write an article like this I lose a few subscribers.  That’s fine, I am fully aware that I will not please everyone.  This would be too easy if I could, and frankly I like the challenge. For some reason people seem to get angry about someone (me) telling them that it is ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE to live life without accepting the chains and bondage that come with debt.  I could speculate all day long about why they get mad, but I’ll just keep it simple.  The truth hurts! It hurts in this case most likely because accepting my argument against debt means that change has to happen.  People don’t like change, or people that point out the things that need to be changed, so I guess this makes me the bad guy!

People have accepted for so long that they will always have a car payment, that they can’t have a house without a mortgage, and can’t go to school without a bunch of student loans.  This is so far from the truth, but since it has been implanted in our head as truth from a very early age, people refuse to accept any alternatives, especially if it means the word sacrifice comes into play.  As I’ve stated before, I was taught growing up that debt and building your credit score is the ONLY way to have certain things.  My dad sticks to this way of thinking and has said that I will never get people to give up their credit cards or car payments.  Never?  Leading only two 13 week Financial Peace University workshops, and writing for this blog says otherwise.

I get emails from co-workers, members of those FPU classes, as well as readers that glow with excitement over their newly paid off credit card, or that feeling of freedom they feel after paying their car off for good.  There is another way and if you continue to read EOD, you could be convinced of it too.  It’s called having a plan to get what you want, instead of getting what you want without having a plan!  It’s called saving to buy, instead of buying to slave! It’s called taking control of your finances by making better decisions!!  It’s also called personal responsibility.  We seem to hold the President responsible for his decisions, but why not ourselves?

Proof That This Dangerous Mindset Is Alive And Well

I was reading an excellent article from a fellow PF blogger today called, Top 10 Reasons That Living With Debt – BITES!.  Jeff over at My Super-Charged Life gave 10 reasons that to him, explain why living with debt should not be an option.  I happen to agree with him, but I am very aware that our way of thinking is not accepted as rational or even possible, in a culture of excessive consumerism and the “I need it now” way of thinking.  Dawn responded with this, and for the record I am not picking on her, I just feel that her comment is the wrong but normal way of looking at things.

“I agree with you, but there are certain things that most people could not pay cash for, namely, when buying a house, and also for college tuition.”

Could not?  Just because it isn’t very common doesn’t mean it isn’t possible to buy a home or pay for college without debt. The truth is that IF people had a better and more responsible financial plan then they very well could do those things with 100% cash down. (100% cash down refers to not going into debt to get something, NOT that you physically only spend cash.)  I admit that it’s not very popular, but what if it was?   If you look at the savings habits of MOST people you will see the reason it is not currently possible.  Isn’t it logical to believe if people saved more, and planned more, they could accomplish some of these “impossible” goals?

I am going to school debt free and my kids are going to be going to school debt free.  There are in fact people who either pay off their mortgage early, or pay for a house without a mortgage at all.  Don’t those two examples mean that it is possible?  If I can go to school debt free, and some have paid off their mortgage early, can’t you also save money to buy that house too?  It might mean that you will have to wait to get that dream house or that school takes a little longer to complete, but what is the rush?  Why does everything have to be done without patience and proper planning to get it?

I just wanted to point out that most people feel the same as Dawn but most people are broke and living paycheck to paycheck, and that is not me being mean, it’s statistically proven.  Maybe it is time for people to plan their future instead of running full steam ahead without knowing where the track leads.  Maybe it’s time for people to stop doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.  There’s a thought!

“I believe that if you are disciplined about paying your credit cards off every month, short-term financing like that made possible by credit cards can be a convenience when you’d rather not carry large sums of cash in your pocket. Assuming your card charges no annual fee and you pay in full each month, you’re paying $0 for a short-term loan.”

I hear this ALL THE TIME, and quite honestly it is completely full of holes.  Not the short term use of credit, but the reason why it’s more convenient.  I believe that not carrying a balance is the most responsible way to use a credit card, but is it the only way?  Nope!  For a business that purchases goods and has 30 days to pay, I think it is useful, but for personal use I strongly disagree?  Why?  An account payable makes it so that you are not having to pay the delivery guy EVERY TIME he delivers goods to your business, but instead you just cut one check at the end of the month.  For a business it makes sense, but for personal use it does not.  I think that there is a better way that gives you peace of mind with less risk. Wait, hear me out!

Dawn says that it is convenient so that you don’t have to carry around large sums of cash.  Can’t a check card be used to do this very same thing? I am sure of it, and the truth is that you don’t carry with you the risk of having a CC balance should a major emergency happen to you, before paying the balance.  Like rewards? Get a check card that gives you rewards for using it.  Like having a buffer to cover expenses in between paychecks? Take a minute to determine how much you need every month to do this and save it, then replenish the fund instead of the credit card when you get paid.  Do you believe that you are more protected against fraud if you use a credit card? That is a lie too if you swipe your debit/check card as a credit purchase instead of a debit using your pin number.  Don’t believe me? Go to the Visa website and see for yourself!

“Personally, I steer clear of the mega-banks who threw us into a global monetary crisis and then accepted taxpayer-funded bailout monies. I prefer doing business with small community banks and a credit union.”

I believe this to be complete denial and a true sign of someone who doesn’t believe in personal responsibility.  Banks are not the reason for our global crisis we find ourselves in at the moment. It is first the people who signed their name on any dotted line’s fault, to accept debt to cover the spending that exceeded their income. If you want to blame someone for allowing that to happen you can blame Washington for forcing some of these same banks to give loans to a larger amount of people in the name of equality. I am not a fan of big banks either, more for customer service issues, but personal responsibility is something that should be considered before pointing the finger.

If people shared Jeff’s attitude about debt, as do I, then there would be no banks to blame in the first place. It’s just something to think about and the very reason I feel so passionately about spreading this very message to all who are willing to hear it. Not accepting debt as the answer gives you MORE options in life instead of chaining you down. I hope you can at least consider what I have said as a possible alternative to using debt to get stuff. The solution is in us and our plan, not in blaming others for our own mistakes.

Now I know that my opinion on this is going to ruffle some feathers because people have been led to believe that the banks are to blame, I just happen to disagree with that line of thinking.  Have there been banks that have deliberately taken advantage of consumers?  Absolutely, and without shame! Does that mean that you, the borrower is faultless?  Not a chance, because you signed the line and likely didn’t read the fine print that told you what was going to happen if you did this or that.  Yeah but…nothing, you could of said no to the slavery that is DEBT!  When you make a choice and it is wrong, that doesn’t give you the right to blame someone else.

My Answer Is:  MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE!

You can live without debt!  You can buy a house!  You can buy a car!  You can rent a car!  You can go on vacation!  You can do absolutely EVERYTHING that you can do with debt, WITHOUT IT!  The only thing you won’t have is a FICO score that says you LOVE to borrow money!  OOOOH SCARY!  No FICO score?  That’s not possible right?  Oh yes it is!  The only good argument I have ever heard about why someone would NEED a good FICO score is because of some jobs requiring it for employment.  Just because it is required doesn’t make it right.  First of all it is just plain wrong!  To expect someone to go into debt by borrowing money in order to do something that they can very easily do just the same as if they had no debt, is STUPID!!!!!

How Can You Get What You Want Without Debt?

It’s called having a plan!  Brian Tracy, a motivational speaker and a master at goal setting, teaches the 5 P’sProper Planning Prevents Poor Performance!  Create a plan that will allow you to have the things you want, and what you want, you will have.  No Debt is needed!!  Create a plan for savings!  Create a plan for spending!  Most of all, create a plan for your future, as well as for your children’s future.  It’s amazing how much you can do when you realize that debt is holding you back!  Get rid of that debt and go do it, and remember these 8 words:  SAVE TO BUY, INSTEAD OF BUYING TO SLAVE!

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Debt-ception Is Everywhere!

The use of debt is rampant and highly irresponsible.  Because we think the good outweighs the bad, we allow ourselves to justify its use.  We tell ourselves that it is okay because it is helping us, ignoring all of the signs of its destruction.  We have replaced good old fashioned savings for the servitude and hardship that debt brings us.  In my opinion we have done this because we have forgotten that no journey worth taking is easy.  We have lost hope in our lives and in ourselves, but I know how to get that back.  Learning how to become debt free is a great way to start!

What Debt IS in four telling words:

  1. Deceptive
  2. Exploitative
  3. Bondage
  4. Tragic

Deceptive
It fools us into believing that it is there to help us, while working behind the scenes to keep us from realizing our true capabilities.  It lures us in by convincing us that we can have more by increasing the quality of our life.  It builds our hopes by fooling us into believing that we can have anything we want without a hefty penalty.  I mean come on, what’s a little interest?  What happens next is anything but the happy, relaxing, dream come true that you were looking for!

Exploitative
All your credit cards, personal loans, car payments and other forms of debt are, are other people using your money to build wealth for themselves.  Often the poor and elderly are exploited the most!  Pay day Loans, Rent-To-Owns, and Reverse Mortgages to name a few.  One way to avoid becoming exploited is to plan for your retirement.  There’s a thought!

Bondage
Debt is nothing short of slavery.  It chains us down keeping us from being able to move freely without stress or severe pain.  The servant status obtained by using debt is unavoidable.  Once you sign the papers you are its slave.  It will eventually render you lifeless as it drains every ounce of hope out of your tired body.

Tragic
With debt comes death!  No not your death, but the death of your hopes and dreams.  The tragedy is that so many of us have forfeited our chances to use our income to truly better our lives and those around us. To have the same opportunity to build wealth as the next man, as proven in the Ben and Arthur Example, and NOT…is the very definition of tragedy! (A disastrous event, especially one involving distressing loss…)  The longer you ignore the problem the more you will lose along the way.

Why Do We Use Debt?

We use it because we always want more and we decide to overlook the deception taking place in order to get it.  We use it because we have been taught that debt is a part of life, and that it is the only way we are to achieve.  We use it to convey success and status.  We use it because we are too lazy to save for the things we want.  We used it to cause our current economic decline and some of us are still trying to figure out what happened.  Debt happened, that’s what!

Why You Should NOT Use Debt!

Debt creeps into your life by deceiving you.  Then it gets fat off of you, declares you as enslaved, and keeps you from ever experiencing the freedom you deserve.  That is a tragic!

STOP the DEBT-ception before it is too late!  When is it TOO LATE?  I don’t know so you should get started NOW!  Too late could be tomorrow!

Random Thought

I have often wondered why some people hate corporations so much.  They provide jobs, benefits,  & more affordable products for everyday life among other things.  It’s corporate greed that they hate right?  I hate corporate greed too, but I don’t really associate greed with every corporation.  People who love money so much that it causes them to steal from others are who you hate, not the company they fooled along the way.

Then I figured it out!  Debt has caused you to loathe corporations that are making gobs and gobs of money off of you in the form of interest.  Let me see if I understand this correctly.  You hate something that you obediently begged to participate in by signing your name.  I have the answer you have been looking for: DON’T BORROW MONEY!! Debt is enabling someone else to become VERY rich off of your sweat, tears, and labor!!

Instead use that same income to plan for your families future by saving, budgeting, and building wealth.  Use that wealth to combat the greedy scum by doing great deeds with your money.  It’s called a counter offensive strategy!  End the deceiving cycle that is debt by learning how to become and remain debt free!  It’s worth the effort and way less painful than the alternative!

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Not too long ago I posted a blog about debt consolidation and the dangers of it. I went on MyTMMO forums to try and get people to share their thoughts on my blog about debt consolidation. Since those forums were private I mentioned that someone close to me was considering using debt consolidation themselves. I got blasted from all angles with people telling me that I should keep my nose out of others business. I later posted a poll on those same forums asking people what they would do, to try and see if there were differing opinions.

So far the results of the poll (MyTMMO Forums) seem to be the opposite of the advice I got when I posted my blog about Debt Consolidation. Most people told me to stay out of it unless my opinion or advice was asked for. In fact people seemed to get really upset that I would even consider such a thing. I am happy to announce that most of you would at least say something and let the chips fall where they may. Here are the results of the poll. When asked if a friend or family member was about to do something stupid, would they give their advice?

65% said they would say something and let the person decide whether or not to use the advice.

32.5% said they would ONLY say something if asked.

2.5% said they wouldn’t get involved that it wasn’t their business.

I have to say I am glad to see these results even though I am still bothered that some of you (32.5%) would sit back and watch loved ones make bad decisions knowing that they were bad. I feel the same as I did when I posted my blog. I love my family enough to at least TRY and warn them of the details of any decision they might be making. I of course couldn’t force them to act on my advice but at least I would have tried to inform them. To not say anything because of fear that he/she might get upset is crazy to me. I think that people need to stop worrying about hurting other people’s feelings so much, and just let the truth be heard. Too much political correctness is numbing the next generation to think that constructive criticism is a bad thing. As long as it is constructive and done in love there should be no problem.

I absolutely hate political correctness. I think it is a thorn in our society, but I do realize that there are times when something is not appropriate to engage in so I am not speaking of these instances. I specifically asked the question about siblings because usually these circumstances do not involve powdered butt syndrome (As Dave Ramsey calls it) like with a parent or something. I would handle the money talk with my mother or father completely different and I know my boundaries. However if they came to me and didn’t ask my opinion but did start a conversation about it I would be completely okay with giving my opinion without fear of damaging the relationship.

I hope that most people would find themselves to actually handle the situation differently if they found that there brother or sister needed help. I just can’t comprehend letting a loved one make a mistake simply because they didn’t ask for advice. The truth is that some people don’t ask questions out of fear of what it implies of them for not knowing. Some people simply don’t ask questions period. I think the risk is definitely worth it in the end. I also realize that the type of relationship one has with their sibling or friend would figure into the equation as well.

If anyone reading this finds themselves in a situation where they can help a family member or a friend from doing something stupid, I hope you at least try. I am not saying to be in their face and yell and scream. I am saying that if they tell you in conversation what they plan to do, there is NOTHING wrong with giving them your take on things. Ultimately they have to decide what to do but at least you gave them something else to consider before making that decision. I know there are people out there that are uncomfortable about giving advice when it comes to money, and if that is you simply tell them about a book that has helped you out. Tell them about The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. Help arm them with the knowledge to make better informed decisions not based on what everyone else would do.

I suppose that if some of the people that got stupid loans that caused this mortgage crisis had been told by someone that loved them that it was a bad idea, maybe the rest of us wouldn’t be bailing them out. All I am saying is that it is something to think about. Sometimes, even though the truth hurts, it needs to be said. Truth is knowledge, as well as power!

What would you do? Have you done something stupid and wished that someone had stopped you? Leave a comment.

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I think that dealing with creditors is probably one of the most emotional experiences one can have at a time when they are likely the most vulnerable.  Think about it.  When you owe someone money and they are constantly hounding you to pay what you already know you owe, it can break anyone down who does not know how to handle them.  Usually what happens is they use tactics to bully you into using your grocery money to pay them NOW!  Credit Sharks In Suits (FPU Lesson) is great for helping you learn how to deal with these sharks, as well as learn how to avoid them all together.

Myth:  You need to take out a loan or open a credit card to build your credit score.

The truth as Dave Ramsey explains it, is that a FICO score is no more than an “I LOVE DEBT SCORE”.  You have to continue to go into debt and pay it off in order to maintain a good score.  Everything used to determine your score is based on debt.  Old debt, new debt, level of debt, length of debt history, and debt payment history.  Someone has started a myth that says you HAVE to borrow money in order to establish yourself in the world.  Your financial responsibility is based on how irresponsible you are with money.  What is wrong with this picture?  Now some would argue that you can have debt and still be financially responsible, but I disagree.  When you borrow money to buy something that you do not have the cash to buy, common sense says that you can’t afford it.  Is it responsible to borrow money that you don’t have to buy something you can’t afford in order to build something that you don’t need?  Your FICO score is a tool for the banks to win NOT YOU!  Some often cry that they need a credit score to get a mortgage one day.  This is also a myth.  By going to a Mortgage Lender that does manual underwriting, you too can get a mortgage without going into debt to earn the privilege.  Save a down payment, be early or on time with your rent payments for 2-3 years, maintain the same job for the same amount of years, and of course make enough to be able to afford that house.  Don’t buy into the myths anymore!

How do you deal with bullies that use fear tactics and guilt to collect?

The basics to dealing with collectors are as follows:

  1. Your income should FIRST cover your FOUR WALLS. (Food, Utilities, Shelter, Basic Transportation)
  2. If you don’t have the money to pay them DON’T pay them. Don’t let them use fear tactics to make you pay them money you don’t have.  Prioritize your necessities and when your income runs out that’s it.
  3. Make the creditors treat you with respect when they call and only allow them to call you every two weeks.  If they try to bully you or make you feel guilty tell them you will talk to them in two weeks but only if they behave.  Deal with them on your terms, but be sure that you are fair at the same time.  After all you do owe them money?
  4. Do a budget and consider using the Pro-Rata method to give yourself some time and traction to get out of your mess.  This method will in some cases keep you from being sued, as well as buy you six months to a year to gain control.  Do not be confused, they can still sue you, but if you are trying to do everything you can to pay them the money you owe them they may not be as likely to waste their time taking you to court.  (I will post an example of the Pro-Rata method on my home page in the sidebar.)
  5. NEVER, EVER give your creditors electronic access to your bank information.  They will lie to you about how much they will take.  Get any deal you make in writing before you send them payment.  Mail your payment certified so they can’t say they never received your payment.
  6. In EXTREME situations where you are threatened or worse you can write a Cease and Desist Letter to keep from contacting you.  You only want to do this in EXTREME situations because when you cut off the communication good or bad, they will surely sue you in court.

The bottom line is that no matter what situation you find yourself in there is a likely solution to YOU turning things around.  It is going to take some patience and hard work, but YOU can do it!  Once YOU start to get some traction with YOUR money YOU can accomplish so much.  Most people make the mistake of buying into the lies that creditors use in order to get them to pay.  When YOU are in control YOU will make better decisions, and the light at the end of the tunnel will begin to emerge.

Good luck and make the decision today to not be bullied ANYMORE!

Do you have a story you would like to share about an experience you had dealing with collectors?  Tell us about it.

EDITED:  Changed Title ending, but forgot to change the beginning too.  BC @ EOD

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