“Are you making yourself old again?” I heard Tori’s friend say to her from behind me as we headed off to dance class.
I had never heard the phrase before, but I immediately understood what she meant. She was referring to the scrunched look on Tori’s face which was a result of the unusually rough time that just occurred at home as I had to continuously poke and prod her to get dinner eaten, dressed, and out the door on time for class.
The wrinkles on her face made her look old.
But even more than just making her look old the wrinkles weren’t serving any purpose. They were simply a showing of emotion reflecting her feelings of a situation that was over. They weren’t helping her resolve anything, nor were they helping her accomplish anything productive.
It reminded me of the times I would lay in bed staring at the ceiling worrying about how I was going to juggle things around to make sure we would have enough funds to make it to the next payday. Did losing sleep and making my stomach turn by worrying make anything better? What did it help me accomplish?
Not a damn thing.
Worrying didn’t improve my finances. It didn’t help me improve my communication with my wife, nor did it help us change our spending habits to live within our means. It certainly didn’t make a budget and spending plan magically appear out of thin air.
I had to take action to make those things happen.
I once heard a motivational speech in which the speaker stated that in almost all cases we know exactly what we need to do to be successful. We fail simply because we do not execute. That was the exact situation that I was in. I didn’t take action until I was forced to, but once I did life immediately began to improve. Now, gone are those sleepless nights and those stomach turns. They have been replaced with financial discussions and teamwork with my wife.
Let me ask you a few questions:
- Are you struggling with debt, or some other challenge in life?
- Is it eating at you, worrying you constantly, and causing you to lose sleep?
- Are you scrunching your face, unnecessarily making you old?
- Is it doing you any good?
Exactly like my daughter’s scrunched up face, worrying is simply an emotional reflection of the situation. It’s not helping you move along the path to making things better. When I was young, and I would make that grumpy, scrunched up face my mom would tell me that if I kept making that face it would stay that way. If you are stressed out, struggling, worrying and you don’t take any action, your life is going to stay that way.